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Zhukov
Aug 9th, 2004, 09:37 AM
When I first meet a girl I can pretty much be smooth and make them laugh for the first few weeks, but after a while this wears off and I just turn into a nonce.

No matter how hard I try I can't seem to be cool around girls I like for more than a few weeks. This in turn makes me more depresed and boring to be around.

I honestly don't think it is from being nervous.

Does anybody else have a similar sort of problem?

Dole
Aug 9th, 2004, 10:52 AM
I think 'Nonce' must have a pretty different meaning in your country than it does in mine. Or if it does have the same meaning, maybe thats where your problem is.

Helm
Aug 9th, 2004, 11:00 AM
You don't have to be interesting all the time. People aren't there to constantly entertain.

FS
Aug 9th, 2004, 11:33 AM
Maybe you're trying too hard to be cute all the time and the girls just get tired of it. I mean, past the initial flirting stage you can drop most of the facade and start acting like a serious person. Not that you can't make jokes anymore, just that you don't constantly have to be that guy who does that thing that makes them laugh.

AChimp
Aug 9th, 2004, 03:02 PM
I'm usually pretty good at thinking up material on-the-spot, but I swear, there have been times where I spent days working on a joke and coming up with a list of perfect times to use it, just so I can get ONE smile from a girl I like.

Yeah, I suck. :(

Matt Harty
Aug 9th, 2004, 03:28 PM
Being in a relationship or making friends shouldn't be an act. If you're worthwhile to be around and genuinely a good person, people will be attracted to you.

But if you spend all your time trying to impress people and joke, you become annoying and deserve to be alone.

AChimp
Aug 9th, 2004, 04:24 PM
These jokes are AWESOME, though. ;)

Matt Harty
Aug 9th, 2004, 04:54 PM
tell one :(

Big McLargehuge
Aug 9th, 2004, 05:07 PM
HEY GUYS JUST BE YOURSELVES :lol

FS
Aug 9th, 2004, 05:12 PM
Unless you're an utter tosser!

:posh

AChimp
Aug 9th, 2004, 05:28 PM
tell one :(

Can't. Have to wait for the perfect time. And none of you are girls that I like. :(

Terra
Aug 9th, 2004, 10:00 PM
I'm usually pretty good at thinking up material on-the-spot, but I swear, there have been times where I spent days working on a joke and coming up with a list of perfect times to use it, just so I can get ONE smile from a girl I like.

Yeah, I suck. :(

No you don't. Maybe the girl's are dorks and you just don't realize it since your working so hard to perfect your joke.

It's possible you know. :)

AChimp
Aug 9th, 2004, 11:20 PM
OMG. :love

Terra
Aug 10th, 2004, 02:34 PM
See?

What's not to love about this chimp? :)