Is love a lost cause?

[DamnthatDavid]

So basically, I met this girl, and I've been hanging with her for about a month. Going slow this time, seeing how my last relationship crashed and burned in just about 2 weeks.

Well, the more I hang with her, the more I get worried. She a small town girl, small town, like, you know everyone in your community small.
And most of her friends when she was growing up where male. Now she is at college, away from these friends who she grew up with, and I have no idea if she is hanging with me as a subsutuite for her missing male friends, or if she is really interested in me. We have the same personalities, and close to the same likes and dislikes.

But I have no idea what her views on me are.
Does anyone have any advice?

[CastroMotorOil]

ask her and not people on a message board.

[Dole]

you have only known her a month! chill out. Getting too heavy and weird too quick would scare anyone off.

[MetalMilitia]

Give it time and her feelings should become clear to you by the way she acts around you etc. Rushing into things like this usually causes a shit loads of hassle.

[hawaiian mage]

Invite her over to your house for dinner, and after she shows up say you need to go use the bathroom. Then come back naked, except for a rose in your mouth, and see if she is into it. If she's not, no loss man, you're just wasting your time any way.

[MetalMilitia]

:lol has that ever worked for you?

[the[Hitman]]

Works for me all the time.

[Big McLargehuge]

get her drunk.

[Esuohlim]

GIRLS LIKE IT WHEN YOU POOP ON THEIR FACE HAHA WHAT A TOOL YOU ARE

[kellychaos]

These local talk radio jocks were just talking about the "nude move". Their claim is that it usually involves alcohol and is one step above shoving your cock through a hole at the bottom of the popcorn container when you're at the movies with your girl. A bunch of callers that actually tried the "nude move" merely reconfirmed the radio jock's theories but it did; however, work for some of them.

[DamnthatDavid]

I recived about 2 good posts from this mess.

Tip top, cherry-oh, I learned me lesson.

[kellychaos]

I get all my best advice from the internet ... it is my best friend ... except for that C-4 advice ... lost part of a finger on that one ... hehe ... red wire ... green wire ... who gives a fuck, right ... erm :(

[Terra]

I know I'm a repetitive loop but I'm all about telling somebody straight up about it. Even if it is a month it wouldn't matter to me and might even clear the air for you. Not sure how well you really know her as in communicating on a deep level but I think it tends to let everybody know where they stand in the food chain.

Sometimes it even allows people to relax about everything and it's possible she might have feelings for you too.

[Supafly345]

Again, I make an observation that girls seem to know nothing about girls. This isn't television, and there is no clear cut anything that is always the best choice. Being up front is good sometimes, but not in this situation.

David, if she is constantly wanting to hang out with you, like when you talk about a cool new movie she immediately says "wanna go see it?" even before she knows it is about death gore commandos that bleed pornography, that is a good sign that she likes your company more than an average friend. But if you don't do more than just play video games once or twice a week then you are stuck.

Or you could be a complete fucking moron, and kill off a perfectly good friend by reenforcing the theory that men can't have lady friends they don't intend to stick their dick into eventually. Shit, if she isn't interested you probably have an even sweeter deal because then you would have a friend that likes stupid things like you, but has that girly influence on you, which will probably make you slightly more attractive to future girls. Plus, friends of the opposite sex are much easier to get along with than those machismo "males" who hate having serious conversations with eachother.

[ziggytrix]

I think the most important question here is would you still want to be friends with her if she has no romantic interest in you, whatsoever, and no chance of sparking any such interest.

If you can answer that with a yes, then just tell her that, and if she doesn't feel like that about you, then you still have a cool friend. :)

If your answer to that question is no, then wouldn't you like to resolve this issue so you can spend your time stalking someone else (you creep)?

[CaptainBubba]

Kiss her on the cheek and smile at her. If she smiles back immediately kiss her again. If she paues, sees your smile, then smiles, do not kiss her again. If she begins to emulsify and/or shoot any shade of liquid from any orifice quickly appologize.

Seriously though a seemingly cute kiss on the cheek works wonders for finding out. Its not sexual unless she wants it to be and thats the beauty of it.

Though Suparfly is correct. Girl friends are the awesomeness especially when discussing serious matters. And f you're lucky enough to find one some of them like FPSs.

[ziggytrix]

Arg. But when the girl kisses you on the cheek who knows what it means!

This happened to me last weekend. Kissed me on my forehead (well would have been my forehead if I wasn't wearing a hat) before she left too. And I'm pretty sure she just thinks of me as a friend. Damn good thing she lives in another state, or I'd lose sleep over it, cuz she's beautiful, but an old friend! :lol

[Captain Goodtimes]

A girl that kisses on the forehead wants to wisk you away to a tropical island and live with you forever.

Duh.

[Helm]

Could be, ziggy. Better start losing sleep over it.

[Terra]

Arg. But when the girl kisses you on the cheek who knows what it means!

This happened to me last weekend. Kissed me on my forehead (well would have been my forehead if I wasn't wearing a hat) before she left too. And I'm pretty sure she just thinks of me as a friend. Damn good thing she lives in another state, or I'd lose sleep over it, cuz she's beautiful, but an old friend! :lol

That used to be a dirty trick I used when I wasn't able to tell the truth. I would kiss the guy's cheek or forehead and hope that it would elicit a favorable response and give me a reading as to what might be going on in his head, by the look on his face. Sometimes things would progress and sometimes it didn't.

But I still opt for telling guys how I feel about them if I feel THAT way.

[ziggytrix]

We made out a few years ago when we were both on drugs at a rave party, and I'm pretty sure thats as romantic as we'll ever get. But she'd been gone to the Northeast for art school for a few years, so it was good to see her again, romantic interest or not. :)

[Terra]

Oh man. If I were a guy I might be losing sleep over that. :(

[Anonymous]

But you're a girl and basically have to use screening methods to handle all the potential cocks so it's no sweat off your nipple.

[Terra]

Oh man if I had a nutsack I would be pounding it in hilarious mirth and laughter :)

[ziggytrix]

Maybe if it were prosthetic.

Otherwise that wouldn't feel very mirthful. :/

[Helm]

I remember a time ziggy was really funny. Not to say that I object to the more 'hi this is me' reality posts of his as of late, but there was a certain period that was really funny and I can't help but want more of that :(

[Seven Force]

I love my quote. lol

[nothing4buddha]

ask her and not people on a message board.

i agree :/

[ziggytrix]

silly helm, i was never funny. :(

[Anonymous]

I'm sad that I had to say that nutsack line about three times in history before it finally stuck as a catchphrase. ;<

[Skulhedface]

Maybe it's because the time you used it and it became a quote, you'd spelled it as 'nutsuck'.

An unintentional misspelling did indeed make that even funnier, though. I suppose that very shortly, theforce.net message board regulars will be calling each other 'nutsuck' very shortly.

[Helm]

Man I'm telling you, you were funny.

[Anonymous]

What the fuck is theforce.net? Some counterstrike appreciation site?

[Skulhedface]

Nope.

[Supafly345]

Its a site about how to have anal sex.

[hawaiian mage]

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[Skulhedface]

Its a site about how to have anal sex.

With LIGHTSABERS!

but then again, think about the logistics of that. Suppose you did just that, and you cauterized your asshole shut.

Wow, that's DEEP.

[Supafly345]

"How to force lightsabre's into your ass with confidence" was just a book released by them, it isn't the theme of the site.