OK so here's the deal...

[Skulhedface]

Well, OK, as some of you may know, me and my girlfriend of two years broke up last week. I mentioned it in passing because I'm not the type that needs to announce it, I'm not the type of person to dwell on something, I feel that instead of bitching and whining about it, the only way to come out of it a better person is to deal with it. No one can do it for you, you have to get through it yourself, and that's why I didn't feel like it was necessary to bring it up except when needed (ie the only other thread I DID bring it up in)

Well, that would be the end of it, but it WAS a bad breakup, and it would have been MUCH worse if I hadn't handled it like an ADULT, and told her that I was VERY angry at her, but if that's what she felt she needed to do in life, and because I still love her (this is the first girl I can ever truly say I LOVED) then as much as it may bother me, I'll support it.

A little backstory is necessary... Last Wednesday, we'd gotten into a little argument, but because we both had a little alcohol in our systems, it escalated into a fullon screaming match, ending with her deciding she needed to go home, so she got one of her guy friends to take her home, and she was STUBBORN, no matter how much I tried to say "Look, I'll take you home" she wanted to leave without me. Well, about halfway to her house apparently, his car broke down and considering her house is a good 15 miles from the bar and that she was deadset on going home, she started walking. Well, he decided he'd walk with her too so he use the phone at her house. With a walk that long they did some talking, which led to what happened the next day.

She calls me and tells me that we should break up, that we had an AMAZING run together but we just couldn't be together anymore. I asked her why, and she said after that talk she realized that we were great together, but we weren't RIGHT for each other. So, being emotional for the moment, the first thing I asked was "Did you dump me for him?" and all she could say was "I'm sorry." I had enough time to tell her that I was PISSED OFF about it but ultimately I was happy for her. She said she still wanted to be friends but I told her she would have to wait until my anger was gone, because I was too pissed at her to be friends with her yet.

Flash forward to about half an hour ago. She shows up here to get her stuff. Other than the fact that she's talking about how she's MOVING IN with this guy now, she acts like NOTHING HAPPENED. She started hugging me, kissing me, acting like we did before, except she was getting her stuff, and all that did was confuse the hell out of me.

We're not getting back together. But all I know is, now I'm as lost as ever on the subject of females. I know some of you might be thinking "Ahh well she's a bitch anyway" but I know for a FACT that until we broke up, she never cheated on me, and the only lies she told were the little white variety. It just surprises me that her whole mindset changed because a friend of hers that gave her a ride more or less SEDUCED her. I'm just happy that it happened now instead of later if it was meant to happen.

Anyway, that was just put up as a way to get it off my chest. I never believed in looking for pity because simply it's counterproductive, because no one can hold your hand and get you through life's backhands, you need to take care of life's big changes on your own. So I posted this more or less because I find it relieving to get it off my chest even if I get slammed for it, and because now I can say that I am officially just as confused about women as everyone else now. But ultimately, this was put up as entertainment, a good read, so if you enjoyed it then good. If you feel the need to slam me for it or to accuse me of seeking pity, well do it if you feel like it, but I know that's not the deal so it won't bother me any. If anything, I just thought it'd make for an interesting read, otherwise I wouldn't have put it here. And if I wanted to whine, well I could've done that in a LiveJournal now couldn't I?

This is the last you'll hear of it unless someone responds in this thread with a question. So, moving along... Time to get into a good mood again.

[Anonymous]

I probably wouldn't have handled it that 'well' at all, but I'm not sure any congratulations is in order over it, as I don't think it was necessarily the 'right' thing to do. If she doesn't have the decency to try to work out any issues she's had with you after being together for two whole years, I don't think you deserve her or her new boyfriend any decency in return. But that remains strictly my opinion.

Here's where I started to tell a story about my girlfriend and the guy she'd seen for two years, but it really is private information. If you're still interested, PM me about it and I'll share, but it doesn't belong on a public forum.

I do identify with what your problems would be like and feel sorry that anyone (save CaptainRobo) should have to go through it. Even an unfunny mong like you.

[Protoclown]

This is the last you'll hear of it unless someone responds in this thread with a question.

You know when you're doing laundry and after you pull all your clothes from the dryer, and you're missing ONE sock?? You put it IN the dryer, but it doesn't come back OUT! Where did that crazy sock go?

[Skulhedface]

Proto... Sock gnomes. Plain and simple. I'm not making this up. A comic strip told me so.

[Protoclown]

According to "The Family Guy", they go to Narnia.

WHO TO BELIEVE :(

[Skulhedface]

I would've gone with Family Guy but I never saw that episode :(
But Narnia's not a bad answer.

[The Unseen]

Is that where the lion the witch and the wardrobe is?

[Helm]

Fuck you :)

[sadie]

okay. :P

[kellychaos]

According to "The Family Guy", they go to Narnia.

WHO TO BELIEVE :(

Sometimes the socks get to the little street light near the door to Narnia and find there way back to our dimension ... but the door back isn't in the dryer. I hope that helped. :)

[Jixby Phillips]

*AHEM*

[Jeanette X]

I'm sorry Skulhedface. Break-ups are never easy. Hope you're coping well. :(

[The Unseen]

Since I like you skulhedface,
I think you are doing perfectly well, the best thing to do in your case is to do what youre doing :thumbsup

[Skulhedface]

Well children, there's more to this sordid saga, and since people are responding to it better than I thought, I guess I can let you guys in on a little more.

Since then... And this explains why my post count has sharply declined in the past few days, so it might be a good thing to some people >: She's been coming around a LOT more often... Eh, she cheated on the guy. With me. Do I feel bad about it? Actually, no. It felt right to me, I didn't talk her into it, actually, I said "You know I want to, so it's up to you" And yea. Anyway....

Well the past few days we've actually been spending a LOT more time together, she broke up with the new dude and has been over here almost all day every day. She keeps TALKING like we're together again but keeps letting me know "BUT I DON'T WANT TO DATE YOU AGAIN YET BECAUSE I WANT TO MAKE SURE I WON'T HURT YOU AGAIN." It doesn't stop her from holding my hand or kissing me or any of that, and it does boost my ego that she says that even though she is getting hit on when she does go out, that I am still the only guy she remains physically, emotionally, and sexually attracted to. So she goes on these friendly "dates" and doesn't even give them the courtesy of a kiss, she actually comes back to my house and sleeps with me (not sexually...well, not every time, people). Gah, am I letting myself be walked all over? She says she wants me back but wants to wait until she's SURE she won't hurt me again, she kisses ME and holds MY hands and lays in bed and snuggles with ME, but I find myself irked that she doesn't want it to be OFFICIAL, that she still insists on calling her little sojourns with other guys "dates" even though they don't even get the courtesy of a kiss....

Yea so I'm confused, which is the only reason I'm even asking for advice. So what the hell?

[The Unseen]

I guess she got tired of you :( Saw if anything else would work so she goes on these "friendly" dates :( Now she sees you were the best out of all of them but shes stalling to be 100% sure that youre the best :)

[Skulhedface]

Actually, I'm not offended about the "tired" comment. We DID spend almost every second of every day for two years together. I suppose it happens to the best of us.

[The Unseen]

it wasnt meant to be offensive really....
but i guess it did really sound like that

If you spent that much time with her then i would have kill an animal if she broke up with me over that. You coped with it better than i thought you did, and i thought you coped very well

[Skulhedface]

Well ultimately what was I to gain by throwing a tantrum of Feelevilesque proportions? I understand I am only human, and it would have made me feel better, but something about me is too hardheaded to take the easy way out.

The only major thing bugging me about this whole situation is, I'm starting to get impatient. She straight up told me to make sure I DIDN'T get over her because she was going to come back soon, but hell, the macho factor's kicking in. Either that, or impatience, like "EVERYTHING you say points to me, everything you DO points to me, what's to think about anymore?!?"

All I can do is hang in there for now.

[The Unseen]

If i was you some time in the next week when she would come over I would grab her by the shoulders, shake her furiously and be like "BITCH, what do you want from me?!??!?" just to vent confusion :/

[Skulhedface]

I have a punching bag for that dude :)

A real man does not violently touch a woman. AT ALL.

[Jeanette X]

I'd ditch her if I was in your shoes. You shouldn't have to put up with these stupid little games.

[The Unseen]

Not violently...just ya'know.....vigorously... not in a harsh or threatening way :(

[Skulhedface]

well Jeanette, call me a hopeless romantic. The optimist in me wants to say if I wait long enough, it will pay off.

Something tells me that's why my patience has held on as long as it has though.

Alright, so the bottom line is, I DID try to move on, but damn the only date I've went on that wasn't with her, all I could see when I looked at her was my ex's face.

:/

[Jeanette X]

You cant expect to start dating again right away. You need time to heal from a break up.

And I am a hopeless romantic too. I admit it. But I have to keep my romantic side tempered with reality.

[Professor Cool]

are you sure she broke up with the guy

Something like this scenario happen to me, but it the turn of event, she wanted this guy, the guy was just looking for some sex, and so she had nowhere to go but back to me. She told me she dumped him for me, but after hearing from several people including her own friends, it was the exact opposite, the thing went to hell after that. And there was now two more bitter singles out there. Do I feel sorry for her, not really. Do I miss being with her, a little, i need the company...

[The Unseen]

Prof Cool, it sounds like what happened to Skulhedface was a more long term caring relationship instead of some 3 month fucking frenzy :/

[Skulhedface]

are you sure she broke up with the guy

Yup, I was in the room when she talked to him about it. If that's not enough, HIS ex is trying to get back together with him, and although this is kinda rude of him, he stopped feeling bad about being dumped when he found out his ex wanted him back. He's just as stuck on her as I am on mine.

[quote[Something like this scenario happen to me, but it the turn of event, she wanted this guy, the guy was just looking for some sex, and so she had nowhere to go but back to me. She told me she dumped him for me, but after hearing from several people including her own friends, it was the exact opposite, the thing went to hell after that. And there was now two more bitter singles out there. Do I feel sorry for her, not really. Do I miss being with her, a little, i need the company...[/quote]

One of the things that flattered me is that she said the main reason she was attracted to him was that he resembled me in a LOT of ways. It never got past first base, but she admits that when she kissed him, she saw MY face.

Another reason I'm being so patient is because she IS about to crack. All of her friends admit having crushes (if you will) on me, and yet they're telling her that the only guy she needs to be with is me. Alas, it's things like this that make me prefer being friends with the female gender. Because incidentally, all the GUYS say she shouldn't, but these are all guys that are more or less known for wanting her themselves.

As far as sex is concerned.. Being as she wasn't technically dating me if she DID with him, and that's the biggest IF there ever was, then why'd she come running back? I mean, I didn't have to talk her into cheating on him with me. She did that of her own volition. I can't say I didn't see it coming because earlier that night I overheard her saying "There's only one man I'd ever cheat with, and that's Daniel" (that's me if you haven't figured it out)

And after they broke up it happened again. And again. Not EVERY night since then, but I'd say maybe 3 out of the past 5 nights. A little history is needed... she'd only been with 2 guys before we dated sexually, but after we started dating and we did for the first time, it was a more or less 5 times a week thing. Maybe she's spoiled on me ;)

The thing is though, this woman has a rep for being BRUTALLY honest, ie if I got a stupid haircut, she'd point it out. That's a weak example, but she HAS proven to me that I CAN trust her. She does HURT me, but she has done NOTHING to break that trust. She says she has not had sex with anyone but me since we broke up, I believe it.

[Professor Cool]

Umm unseen, we were together for 3 years and about 7 months years before that happen

edit: yah, the reason why she lied to me basically because she was embarrased that she was used and she would think I'd be flattered if she said she come back to me, but that's kinda self explanitory, All i can say is, see what happens and whatever happens, happens.

Best of luck

[Skulhedface]

And girls want to say WE play games >:

She just called. She wants to come over. I don't know if that should be a :) or a :(, but I will stick around for about 15 more minutes or so, it'll take her that long to get here.

[Professor Cool]

If she wanted to talk she would of stayed on the phone, so I guess she wants more company, unless she's wanted to break it off and she wants to get the last of her stuff :(

[Skulhedface]

I doubt that.

"Daniel, I'm coming to spend the night. Do you mind?"

:) or :( ?

[The Unseen]

now i feel like an idiot :(

[Professor Cool]

I say :)

Enjoy it as long as it last, no matter how uncertain the future is..

[Skulhedface]

Well, it SEEMS pretty certain, it just ain't happened yet. And it's pissing me off and depressing me at the same time.

[Professor Cool]

one day at a time.. :/

It sucks but, thats how it goes

Unless, you just flat out ask in plain english "What is going on between us" , at least then you can prepare for a fall

[Skulhedface]

Unfortunately enough >:

Just an aside... What happened to Beakman? :(

and can I request a song?

[Professor Cool]

I dont know, I just picked him cause i found it under professor in an image search, and yes go ahead

[Skulhedface]

The MST3K song was always good :)

One day at a time always seems to move too slow when bad things happen, but too fast when the good part hits. What a way to run a universe >:

[Professor Cool]

imagine if we lived on neptune, days last 40 years, and nights last another 40.

i actually tried to learn the ending theme to MSt3k (The Love Theme) but it sounds like the theme to Twin Peaks. :(

Anyways:

In the not too distant future,
Way down in Deep 13
The evil Dr. Forrester,
Was hatching a nasty scheme
He hired a temp by the name of Mike,
Just a regular joe he didn't like
His experiment needed a good test case,
So he conked him on the noggin,
And he shot him into space! ("GET ME DOWN!!!")

"I'll send him cheesy movies,
"The worst I can find (la-la-la)
"He'll have to sit and watch them all,
"And I'll monitor his mind (la-la-la)
Now keep in mind Mike can't control,
Where the movies begin or end (la-la-la)
He'll try to keep his sanity,
With the help of his robot friends

Robot Roll Call:
Cambot ("Show yourself")
Gypsy ("I'm not ready")
Tom Servo ("Hi-ho-there")
Croooow! ("That's one 'O'")

If you're wondering how he eats and breathes,
And other science facts (la-la-la)
Just repeat to yourself, "It's just a show,
I should really just relax".
For... MYSTERY SCIENCE THEATER 3000!

[Skulhedface]

Guitar's more my thing. But I can play Tetris and The Simpsons on it :rock Among other things, of course, but these are the funniest

[The Unseen]

i made an ocarina in art class and i can play epona's song and iron man on it :rock

[Skulhedface]

We should start a band :)

[Professor Cool]

seriously i suck at keyboard, i just play it so i can make those stupid sounds, it a great way to piss off your friends, Im trying to play guitar, but one day at a time..... :/

[The Unseen]

i want a harmonica solo :)

[Professor Cool]

I played the harmonica when i was a kid, i wanted to be like the blues brothers, i forgot why that dream ended, oh yeah grunge music became popular :(

[Skulhedface]

I've been giving guitar lessons on and off for 3 years :/

[The Unseen]

We should play hardcore jazz :lol

now to think of a band name.... :/

[Professor Cool]

i need some :/

She she leave yet?

how about "Blue Oyster Cult" :(
Im not good with names :(

[Skulhedface]

I think that's her coming around the corner. In any case, I'm off. If anything happens and this thread stays bumped I guess I'll let you guys know.

[Professor Cool]

Farwell, and good luck

[soundtest]

if a girl did that to me (and similar incidents have happened before), no matter how 'good' things got again, things would NEVER be the same and i could NEVER trust her again. i would manipulate and use her the way she's manipulating and using you. you need to take the power back. if you don't, you will get hurt again - guaranteed.

edit: i read your first post. if this is irrelevant after the last couple of pages, disregard. actually, just disregard regardless.

[Professor Cool]

It's okay, the last page was a mix of past experience turned into a talk about musical persuits, so you didn't miss much

[Professor Cool]

I wonder how things went....

I wonder....

[Skulhedface]

Well Professor Cool... I did want to report something... but unfortunately, it didn't quite work out that way, which is why I didn't reply sooner.

It was rather uneventful, with both of us being sick, so we just stayed up watching movies all night.

Oh yea, and a quick kiss :)

[The Unseen]

Good work fucker :)

[Skulhedface]

Alrighty children, here's the final update to this thread, hereafter it's CLOSED because I'm a bitter fuck >:

After what happened that night, she went home, later went to work, typical boring day. However, her manager suddenly confesses to having a crush on her, he sweettalks her (her weakness being that she's fucking gullible) and suddenly they're an item. What surprised me was that I wasn't the last to find out, because she IS honest but she waits until the last minute to tell me anyway....

I finally did snap. As "gentlemanly" as I've tried being to her, this just set me off. I started saying that those type of relationships (boss/employee) never, EVER work and that I'm fucking pissed if she wants to run to me if she wants love or affection or even sex but still wants to pursue a relationship with another. I told her that I wasn't going to sit down and be a fucking pawn that she can run to and fuck when she feels the urge, that I'm NOT going to be playing her game anymore.

She freely admits to being sexually attracted to me still, and more, so when they start a relationship and she ends up disappointed with him (because they have NOTHING in common, if he hadn't BULLSHITTED her it never would've happened) then I KNOW she'll end up running back to me, and half of me can't decide if I should take her back, because I do love her enough to make that risk worth it, or to tell her to sit on a rusty spike strip for ever using me like that.

In other words.. once she GROWS UP, yea, she'll be running back. She has before.

But I found out I'm only human :/ because I didn't want to snap but finally did.

The only question I have left is what I should do on the day she DOES come running back, because I know this guy better than her, and he's always been full of shit, so I know this one ain't gonna be a timeless romance.

But no I'm not bitter now >:

[soundtest]

She is a headcase. Inform her of this fact and then ignore her completely. But if you want to have some cruel - but deserved - fun, try this: ignore her completely for a couple of weeks or so. Later on, when she tries to talk to you, casually and politely state that you are busy. Do this for a couple more weeks. Then, when her interest has peaked for you again, give her the time of day, but only to manipulate her. What you do from this point is up to you. Be creative!

Or just take her back right now and be the laughing stock of my day.

[Skulhedface]

Nope, Soundtest.. I'm too bitter right now to let her off easily like that. It's gonna be fun to see her squirm.

Whoever said "It's easier to hate the ones you love" was a wise man indeed.

[sadie]

once she GROWS UP, yea, she'll be running back.
IF she GROWS UP, she won't be running anymore.

[Jixby Phillips]

People who fall in love are faggots

[Protoclown]

Soundtest is right, you need to drop this chick like a bad habit. Seriously. Everything you've said is just setting off alarms in my head that say this girl is extremely immature in her dealings with people, or insane, or both.

First off, if she's willing to cheat in a relationship AT ALL, even if it's with YOU while she's in another relationship, THEN SHE IS WILLING TO CHEAT. PERIOD. If she'll cheat with you, she'll cheat ON you, despite what she may say or believe now.

She sounds so wishy-washy about what she wants, one day she wants you back, the next day some random guy is like "Dur, you're purdy" and she's got a new boyfriend. That's not normal, dude. That's not the kind of person a good, lasting relationship happens with. Maybe you had two years like you say, but I say if you did, you were damn lucky to have lasted that long.

I've never been in love, but my understanding of it is that you're not supposed to constantly subject one another to fucked up psychological mind games, which is CLEARLY what's going on here.

If you go back to her, she'll be using you like a tool, dude. Probably not what you want to hear but I think you need to hear it.

[Carnivore]

Infidelity is unforgivable.

"End of sentence!"

[soundtest]

I've never been in love, but my understanding of it is that you're not supposed to constantly subject one another to fucked up psychological mind games


I hope I've just had bad luck. :tear I mean, they always start fine... but the cynic in me says that it's inevitable... :suicide

At least I can buy (http://www.realdoll.com) true love. :love

Edit: wrong closing bracket

[UnDeath]

yeah man, be callous in this. As black and white with her as you can, either she stays with you, and you continue as usual, or ya kick her to the curb and be short with her until she gets the point...
But nobody but you knows the entire story, so do what feels right, and try to just look at the situation from all sides, including hers, so see whats up.
other than that, just scream inconherently when she comes within 5 feet of you, wherever you may be, and when she leaves that radius, act like nothing just happened... :/

[Skulhedface]

Well guys, first of all, I guess I have to say thanks for trying to help me out in a time of a lot of confusion.

Soundtest is right, you need to drop this chick like a bad habit. Seriously. Everything you've said is just setting off alarms in my head that say this girl is extremely immature in her dealings with people, or insane, or both.

First off, if she's willing to cheat in a relationship AT ALL, even if it's with YOU while she's in another relationship, THEN SHE IS WILLING TO CHEAT. PERIOD. If she'll cheat with you, she'll cheat ON you, despite what she may say or believe now.

She sounds so wishy-washy about what she wants, one day she wants you back, the next day some random guy is like "Dur, you're purdy" and she's got a new boyfriend. That's not normal, dude. That's not the kind of person a good, lasting relationship happens with. Maybe you had two years like you say, but I say if you did, you were damn lucky to have lasted that long.

I've never been in love, but my understanding of it is that you're not supposed to constantly subject one another to fucked up psychological mind games, which is CLEARLY what's going on here.

If you go back to her, she'll be using you like a tool, dude. Probably not what you want to hear but I think you need to hear it.

Yea Proto, I think I finally "woke up". I'm not AS bitter anymore, but I still find this whole thing unforgiveable.

yeah man, be callous in this. As black and white with her as you can, either she stays with you, and you continue as usual, or ya kick her to the curb and be short with her until she gets the point...
But nobody but you knows the entire story, so do what feels right, and try to just look at the situation from all sides, including hers, so see whats up.
other than that, just scream inconherently when she comes within 5 feet of you, wherever you may be, and when she leaves that radius, act like nothing just happened...

It's usually not in my nature to be callous, but it IS my nature to describe to the "eye for an eye" philosophy in certain matters. I will never physically hurt this girl, and part of me actually feels like an asshole for wanting her to hurt as bad as I do, but I justify it to myself by saying "She hurt you, man. Let HER know what it feels like."

It does go against everything I was raised to believe in. I was raised old-fashioned when it came to love (i.e. wait until you find a girl you KNOW you'll be with for awhile, and treat her with utmost respect) which of course seems to give me a severe handicap in the end. The worst part of all is, I feel vindicated because in my heart I knew I did everything I could to try to make things work, and it was ultimately not MY fault things went wrong, but it still feels fucking miserable to have invested all that love and time and affection into her and not have it "pay off" so to speak, in the end (and I don't mean sexually you pervs) What the payoff is? Not marriage or anything... just knowing that life, while maybe not overall, but for the most part, will be hunky dory in the end.

Or perhaps I need to get my head out of the clouds.

[Professor Cool]

(use *70) Call her bosses office saying your looking for her and say your her boyfriend...that wll be a treat!

Now stupidity aside.....Good luck Skull..

[Protoclown]

Dude, it's seriously not worth any kind of revenge. And in a weird fitting ironic sort of way, by giving her nothing but your apathy, you'll almost be hurting her more than you would by setting OUT specifically to do so.

Just forget about her and move on. Revenge is petty and usually not worth the effort.

[Professor Cool]

I was kidding Proto :(

An friend told me to do something similar when i broke up with this one long term girlfriend

Of course he's the guy that thinks "all your base" is still the coolest

[Skulhedface]

Apathy would work pretty well I suppose. Thanks Proto.

And you too Professor Cool.

[Royal Tenenbaum]

I think she needs a slap in the face and a slug from a .45 .

[OwNaG3]

but because we both had a little alcohol in our systems, I tried to say "Look, I'll take you home" she wanted to leave without me.


okay fuck tard, you love her so much that you will drive her home after you have been drinking - stupid!!

[Skulhedface]

A: HELLO BUMPY BUMPERTON

B: When you start drinking at 9 that night, and you stop at 12, and you don't leave until 2, and you only had MAYBE 5 beers in that 3 hour period... You figure it out. An amateur could drive home like that.

Besides, didn't I say a "LITTLE"? I don't think I had enough by the time I actually left to even qualify for a DUI.

[Generator86]

Sorry to arrive at the party so late....

What's the situation like now? I read the Stories for the bored thread that you started, so I know that you're not together in a "going out" type of deal, but does she still drop by or anything?

I've got to agree on the old adage of "Once a cheater, always a cheater". Get this. I was in 11th grade when I met this girl. Let's call her Some Dumb Skank. Anyways, I'm just a scrawny little long-haired punk/metalhead. She's in a Mexican gang. Seriously. What she saw in me, I still have no idea. So we start going out. We break up a couple of weeks later, mostly due to the fact that I didn't enjoy driving around listening to Warren G, and we really didn't have a damn thing in common, other than we enjoyed fucking. I run into one of her friends about two weeks after we break up, and she asks me how we're doing, since she didn't know that we weren't together anymore. I tell her that I dumped her, and her response was, "Oh, you found out about her and (insert some guy's name)?" I had no fucking clue. Turns out that the entire time we went out, she had another boyfriend in her gang, and after we'd get done hanging out, she'd drop me off at home and go to this guy's house and fuck him. Also, she had an ex-boyfriend in jail who she'd treat like they were still going out, too. The guy in jail got out briefly, impregnated her, and got sent back to jail for robbing a store or something like that. She calls me up about six months later, saying how sorry she was and I was the nicest guy she ever went out with and that she wants to get back together with me. She was six month's pregnant, for fuck's sake, with a convict's kid, and she honestly thought I'd take her back. But the thing is, when she asked me back out, she was STILL going out with that guy in her gang. I don't want to sound like a misogynist or anything, but she has honestly got to be one of the dumbest fucking bitches I've ever met.

Sorry about that little rant.

[Skulhedface]

Well, there is more to the story but I wasn't going to post it because this thread has seen activity die off, but now that there's renewed interest I'll let you in.

I said all that stuff in stories for the bored, and that was the last time I'd seen her was that night, but I have heard from her again. She called here twice telling me that she was unsure all over again, that seeing me again reminded her of how she felt about me, how much she misses me and all the good times we did have and all that (we were basically inseperable for 2 years, now). I have faith that she never cheated, at least on me, because we were basically around each other almost 24 hours a day. Before she started working, she'd even come hang out at the shop with me and watch me do tattoos all day, so I never had a question about her faithfulness. But her tragic flaw is that she was sheltered, she didn't get to even start her cutting loose until she turned 18. She feels like she missed out on her teenage years and now that she IS allowed to cut loose, she's trying to squeeze in as much as possible before she DOES have to grow up. She stayed faithful to ME, but after breaking up she saw herself as COMPLETELY untethered and that's how that all came about. What it is is that she didn't cheat on me, but she had a good idea of who to go for if we did break up. So you are all half right, but considering that she was almost literally never away from me for longer than 30 minutes until she got a job (and that's easily checkable, should I feel paranoid) I never had any worries.

Maybe that was part of it, that we did spend entirely too much time together, and that's part of what's making it so hard for me to get over her, not to mention that just when I'm feeling normal again she comes back around and invites me to her birthday which is 2 days after mine, mine being tomorrow, and tells me she still has feelings and love for me.

SO the story is once again unfinished. I'll let you guys know the definitive final answer by Friday night or Saturday morning, depending on my alcohol intake that night :)

[Generator86]

Man, I've got to be honest. Seriously, you've got to forget about her. I know, I know, much easier said than done, okay? Been there, tried that, failed, drank, tried again, ad nauseum. You've gotta see that waiting around for her to make up her mind isn't doing you a god-damn bit of good, right?

But hey, taking relationship advice from me is more than likely one of the dumbest things you could do. I figure I've got to go through about two or three nasty break-ups before I even have enough authority on the subject to talk out of my ass.

Either way, best of luck and happy birthday. Have fun.

[Skulhedface]

Today being the birthday, I plan on it. I wasn't gonna think about her, but she's sentimental about birthdays so I can't completely put her out of mind, she WILL call today.

I'm just waiting until later. I'm getting zero presents but I'm going to rake in some cash :)

[Queen Tonya]

Oy vey, what happened? Didja make it out, or were you sucked back in??

[Skulhedface]

I made it out :)

I went to her birthday party and she actually admitted that she wanted me back and I almost seemed possessed because without even thinking about what I was going to say, it just came out...

"You know what? Fuck it, I'm better off without you. Happy birthday."

I left and I hadn't heard from her since.

My roommate was kind enough to point out that that means I will not get laid anymore :lol but I walked away with my dignity. So I guess it all works out.