[Helm]

Grief is one of the most egotistical reactions man is capable of. So be prepared to be around losts of people that will be projecting this to a sickening degree. Be prepared that you will, too. Deny anyone the chance of discussing 'what a great guy/gal' they where and attend the bare minimum of assorted get togethers allowed by your lifestyle/religion/morality. Skip the funeral, if possible. If you don't, at least don't look in the coffin, if it's open and don't have sex afterwards. That's all.