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Originally Posted by AChimp
I recommend that you forget about it. It takes time, believe me, I know all about that, but eventually you just start to realize that it doesn't matter anymore. You have to accept the fact that you probably will never know what was going on in the other person's head.
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Yeah, I'm not really trying to solve the mystery. Knowing what they're thinking won't make me feel any better, and it's a moot point as it is. I'd certainly not be looking to make up or talk things out with the person.
My problem is I'm not trying to set out to keep hating this person. I've done my best to forget about them, including giving up friendships and interests just to stay out of any association to them. I can go on and live my life without giving them a thought... until out of the blue, I'll just become furious.
A good example is how I had a dream a month or two ago about her, and I woke up angry, and STAYED angry for about a week. Thinking just about that dream makes me angry. So for as much as I try to forget about them (essentially running away from the problem) I still seem unable to shake random fits of anger toward them, which gets bottled up or displaced upon others. And I really don't like that.
Helm, I get what you're saying. Arrogancy or no, I admit that she ended up taking paths in her life that ended up causing too much conflict in regards to my wanting to be friends with her. It wasn't so much disappointment, as it was that we were just different people, and I finally realized that after two years of what I considered a close friendship. I can accept that with some pain of loss, and move on. I think my anger really just stems from other issues relating to our friendship, rather than how they live their life. Subconsciously, that could be a whole other story.
If any of that makes sense.