[Helm]

strangely your post didn't JUMP OUT AND ATTACK MY FACE like it did to soundtest, and my fishing-for-complements-detector is very keen. So I guess I'll have to take you at face value:

you are, most probably, not very attractive, overweight, not particularily talented at anything, and you have self asteem issues. If these things bother you, you can fix some of them. You can devote yourself in your chosen artform so you achieve at least a respectable level of skill, you can get on a diet and shape up, and you can deal with your personal issues in a more pro-active way. Namely: by shutting up about them, keeping them in check and not letting them ruin your life. Don't think anything drastic can be done about the ugly, deal with it.

All this is what most people would tell you. Your mom is right about having no respect for pussies, even though that's not what you want to hear. You want to hear encouragment and lies over how it's ok.

My two cents: Figure out what you want to live for. Other people's idea of success shouldn't have to be your idea of success automatically. Consider life goals. Maybe it's not all about geting fucked by handsome guys and having lots of money? Then, when you figure ( or start to think about ) this stuff, live with the consequences of your actions. If you like overeating, and that makes you fat, fine. Don't cry when nobody wants to put his penis in your vagina because of it. Can't have everything. If the penis in vagina thing is more important, deprive yourself of the pleasure of overeating. Can't have everything.

If you give in and adopt the the prepackaged simple life with the handsome boyfriend, the nice job and the puppy and fence idea of success, fine. Just know that some people do not get that.