Well guys, first of all, I guess I have to say thanks for trying to help me out in a time of a lot of confusion.
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Originally Posted by Protoclown
Soundtest is right, you need to drop this chick like a bad habit. Seriously. Everything you've said is just setting off alarms in my head that say this girl is extremely immature in her dealings with people, or insane, or both.
First off, if she's willing to cheat in a relationship AT ALL, even if it's with YOU while she's in another relationship, THEN SHE IS WILLING TO CHEAT. PERIOD. If she'll cheat with you, she'll cheat ON you, despite what she may say or believe now.
She sounds so wishy-washy about what she wants, one day she wants you back, the next day some random guy is like "Dur, you're purdy" and she's got a new boyfriend. That's not normal, dude. That's not the kind of person a good, lasting relationship happens with. Maybe you had two years like you say, but I say if you did, you were damn lucky to have lasted that long.
I've never been in love, but my understanding of it is that you're not supposed to constantly subject one another to fucked up psychological mind games, which is CLEARLY what's going on here.
If you go back to her, she'll be using you like a tool, dude. Probably not what you want to hear but I think you need to hear it.
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Yea Proto, I think I finally "woke up". I'm not AS bitter anymore, but I still find this whole thing unforgiveable.
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Originally Posted by UnDeath
yeah man, be callous in this. As black and white with her as you can, either she stays with you, and you continue as usual, or ya kick her to the curb and be short with her until she gets the point...
But nobody but you knows the entire story, so do what feels right, and try to just look at the situation from all sides, including hers, so see whats up.
other than that, just scream inconherently when she comes within 5 feet of you, wherever you may be, and when she leaves that radius, act like nothing just happened...
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It's usually not in my nature to be callous, but it IS my nature to describe to the "eye for an eye" philosophy in certain matters. I will never physically hurt this girl, and part of me actually feels like an asshole for wanting her to hurt as bad as I do, but I justify it to myself by saying "She hurt you, man. Let HER know what it feels like."
It does go against everything I was raised to believe in. I was raised old-fashioned when it came to love (i.e. wait until you find a girl you KNOW you'll be with for awhile, and treat her with utmost respect) which of course seems to give me a severe handicap in the end. The worst part of all is, I feel vindicated because in my heart I knew I did everything I could to try to make things work, and it was ultimately not MY fault things went wrong, but it still feels fucking miserable to have invested all that love and time and affection into her and not have it "pay off" so to speak, in the end (and I don't mean sexually you pervs) What the payoff is? Not marriage or anything... just knowing that life, while maybe not overall, but for the most part, will be hunky dory in the end.
Or perhaps I need to get my head out of the clouds.