[Baalzamon]

Well, you are going to have to drill through all the layers of bullshit with her, and from the sounds of it you have not really been sucessfull so far.

It doesnt look like patience will get you any further than you have already gotten.

You have to become heavy handed with it. If she wants to hide behind her paranoia, and brush you off, so be it, but make her do it with full understanding of what she is doing.

If you force her to look at what shes doing, she will either realize she is being stupid, or will continue to remain just the way she is now. At least that way theres a chance.