[Pentegarn]

The general advice as Colonel pointed out earlier is you have to leave.

Chojin touched on something though too. In life all the best things that happen to a person happen because they finally made a decision that was hard. It is human nature to be content with the status que because the unknown scares us. This is precisely why you are frozen in a quagmire of indecisiveness. Ultimately you will be compelled to leave, it is inevitable, and if you don't do it now, keep this in mind; eventually, while she is doing bad things now, she will eventually do something much worse to you, it is only a matter of time, so why wait for that shoe to drop? Get out now while it is only this bad before it actually becomes worse (which it will)