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James · #1

If I didn't act so brotherly (protective of her), she'd want to be with me.

Is this supposed to be nice? Because it's kind of not. Is she just trying to humor me, even though I never said I'd want to be with her in the first place?

Supafly345 · #2

In all seriousness, any reason they give not to like you is as good as the next. They may not always be completely true, but they always mean the same thing: They are just not inerested.

But, since you never told her that you wanted to be with her (even though acting like a "brother" is a clear sign that you do) she may just think that something like this would make you feel good. She may be thinking that saying that is like saying "There are women that will want to be with you, you know, but just not me."
Sounds like she just wanted to give you some self esteem without sounding like an invitation.

She does care about you at least.

James · #3

I pretty much assumed so. But WHY would a girl think that's a nice thing?

"Well, I would never date you if my life depended on it. But I'm sure there's a girl out there who's pathetic and desperate enough to consider you as a boyfriend."

Supafly345 · #4

I don't think she is saying that, it could be a hint that if you acted a little bit more "lax" when it comes to your relationships with girls then they might want it a little more. Still, for now, there isn't much of a window for a more intimate relationship with this one. Perhapse if you act more like an average friend than a realative then something will happen.

Girls are, as I am sure you already know, very confusing. If we try to figure out why they think that telling us "that [we] remind them of her dog" should be considered a compliment, or why she finds a retarded voice that we accidentally do hilarious and adorable, all we discover is a new way to give ourselves a migrane.

I myself have a problem with overthinking women's comments, I am on a 5 step program to stop. All it is is hurting one's self. :/

James · #5

She's the kind of girl who likes having that kind of protectiveness from me. So it baffles me that suddenly, it's a bad thing that prevents her from being interested in me THAT way.

Nor was it ever something I had taken much interest in. Like, she's a great girl, and I like her, and I COULD see myself being interested in her. But I never had a desire to try and act on it. But she breaks up with her boyfriend, and says that, and now all I can think about is how I'm not good enough for her, and how I fucked up a chance to be with her that I didn't even think about taking in the first place. And so now, I kind of want to be with her, knowing that I can't.

So, fuck.

Spooky · #6

IF SHE LIKED INCEST YOU'D BE SET FOR LIFE

James · #7

My word, that was clearly so clever. I am just impressed with how clever that was. Your name shouldn't be Spooky, it should be Clever.

You need the smart beaten into you, just so you can be upgraded to Dumbass. Go drink a beaker of acid and get killed.

Big McLargehuge · #8

Are all these girls james talks about real?

Royal Tenenbaum · #9

To him, they are. :/

kellychaos · #10

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Originally Posted by Big McLargehuge

Are all these girls james talks about real?

Is YOUR right hand real to you?

Dole · #11

Its pretty sad if even imaginary girls are turning him down.

Supafly345 · #12

That would be massacism. And that isn't sad, it is dead serious.

Dole · #13

and it isnt massacism, its masochism.

Supafly345 · #14

Thats the first time I have ever seen it spelled right.

Dole · #15

James · #16

Massacism is when a slave makes himself pick cotton.

But yeah, women are icky. :/

Big McLargehuge · #17

come out

Protoclown · #18

James, you should know by now that women ALWAYS want to be with "some other guy", not you. That's simply how it works.

Spooky · #19

Alright, now the gloves need to come off, and I'm going to break it all down for all of you.

James, you're telling me you would really rather have the girl say something along the lines of, "No, I don't wanna date you because you're ugly and I think I can do better."?

Its when you let women think they hold all the cards, thats when they say that. women never want what they can just have, they want what they cant have.

P.S. James, i'm ignoring you now, to whip you into a frenzy. i may also call you names soon.

AChimp · #20

If you're overbearing, James, then you're overbearing. You should lighten up like she suggests.

Mr. Vagiclean · #21

[quote="James"]If I didn't act so brotherly (protective of her), quote]

Protection from what?

James · #22

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Originally Posted by AChimp

If you're overbearing, James, then you're overbearing. You should lighten up like she suggests.

She didn't suggest. She likes that I look after her, and care about her the way I do. I'm not overbearing in the slightest, and I have toned it down a lot (she's a big girl, she can take care of herself).

It's just funny that for a friend, she wants me to look after her. But for a boyfriend, she wouldn't want that. And it's too late to change, because she has her mind set on thinking of me as a brother. The ladder system wins again.

See, this whole thing is stupid. She says this, and now all I can think about is what I've missed out on. I was doing great just being good friends with her, but now I can't stop thinking about what it would be like if things were more serious, knowing I can't have it. It's like, if someone runs up to you on the street, holds out a cake, and says "You can't have any of this cake." Chances are, you're suddenly going to want the cake.

She made me fucking want her cake.

And why the hell do I have to be a brother? Why can't I be Daddy?