The Rage Virus has taken me.

[Big McLargehuge]

James, there are two types of problems, genuine ones and fabricated ones. You are just like alot of people i know, you like to feel helpless. You are an emotional masochist, don't take this the wrong way i used to be one myself. I mean forgetting your birthday isn't that bad and unless the things she did on her vacation included carbombing and baby killing there is no real reason to be so mad. I mean, you can't be mad at people for being who they are.

All you are are doing is fighting something you cannot help and rendering yourself emotionally impotent. Get over it, don't treat it like a big deal and it won't be one. And also, don't ask advice from people on the internet, we have no idea what we are talking about and even if we did we don't know the situation well enough to offer anything useful.