Well children, there's more to this sordid saga, and since people are responding to it better than I thought, I guess I can let you guys in on a little more.
Since then... And this explains why my post count has sharply declined in the past few days, so it might be a good thing to some people

She's been coming around a LOT more often... Eh, she cheated on the guy. With me. Do I feel bad about it? Actually, no. It felt right to me, I didn't talk her into it, actually, I said "You know I want to, so it's up to you" And yea. Anyway....
Well the past few days we've actually been spending a LOT more time together, she broke up with the new dude and has been over here almost all day every day. She keeps TALKING like we're together again but keeps letting me know "BUT I DON'T WANT TO DATE YOU AGAIN YET BECAUSE I WANT TO MAKE SURE I WON'T HURT YOU AGAIN." It doesn't stop her from holding my hand or kissing me or any of that, and it does boost my ego that she says that even though she is getting hit on when she does go out, that I am still the only guy she remains physically, emotionally, and sexually attracted to. So she goes on these friendly "dates" and doesn't even give them the courtesy of a kiss, she actually comes back to my house and sleeps with me (not sexually...well, not every time, people). Gah, am I letting myself be walked all over? She says she wants me back but wants to wait until she's SURE she won't hurt me again, she kisses ME and holds MY hands and lays in bed and snuggles with ME, but I find myself irked that she doesn't want it to be OFFICIAL, that she still insists on calling her little sojourns with other guys "dates" even though they don't even get the courtesy of a kiss....
Yea so I'm confused, which is the only reason I'm even asking for advice. So what the hell?