fuck man, stop feeling sorry for yourself and do something about it already. its getting damned annoying.
If you really like her that much that you cant just let it go, your only option is to push the issue untill you are either accepted or get turned down in the harshest way. Its the chance you have to take, but at least the issue would be resolved.
Shes making excuses to avoid exactly this. It will never happen unless you force her to find 5 fucking minutes to talk to you.
But seriously, if shes being as much of a bitch as you make it sound like, I cant see how you actually would like her that much, and in that case you should just forget about her, and then you wont have to deal with it anymore.
I like my second option better, its easier, and I think I've heard enough to confidently say that it is the right course of action in this case.
on the other hand the harsh dumping that could result from the first option would make a better thread
It all depends though. Is your heart set on her? are you madly in love with her and cant be with anyone else...
answer that question, then decide what you are going to do.