Deadly (Literally) serious. Long, but please help.

[James]

So the consensus is just for me to ignore things again, and to just talk to her like there's nothing wrong in her life, and let her go on bottling everything up until she hurts herself again.

My question is, WHY do you think this is a good idea? I'm not going to just beat her over the head for answers every moment we talk. We brought the suicide thing up, talked about it for a bit, and then she had to go. When she came back, we didn't bring it up. And I figure that every now and then, I gotta try and get her to talk about her problems, but not make it a constant focus. Just enough that she can start getting things out, instead of letting them overwhelm her.

But to just never bring it up again, wash my hands of concern, and just act like there's nothing to care about just sounds like you want me to want her to die. So tell me why you think it's a good idea to just ignore the problems just like she's doing?

"I want to die."
"That's great. Hey, do you like The Lion King?"

Just enlighten me further on how this will help her get better, please. You saying that doing this is the best option, but how will this help her to feel better about herself and her life, so that she doesn't want to die?