James-
PORNO is only there to get you aroused. If you want a girl to suck your dick after anal, and then let you blow your wad all over her, your either gonna need to find someone really kinky, wash your dick afterwards (cause thats gross), or get into the porno buisness.
The unseen-
Most females, but not all, tend to go for a guy who seems to have alot of problems, as they think they can change him into what they think is a better person. But soon they relize that he really is just a cheating asshole dirtbag who never got out of middle school. My advice to you, Stay exactly the same.

who knows maybe some unexpecting female will decide that your the one.