Counting Crows again

[Anonymous]

Originally Posted by Jamesman

After you've been friends with a girl for a while, they see you as just a friend, and not as a potential relationship. And once they find out you have those sorts of feelings for them, they get all wierded out, like you're not their friend anymore.

Not at all, it's the way you go about it that makes that happen.

Originally Posted by Jin

I was actually stuck in the same sort of problem that you are in for a really long time, and it wasnt until I realised that it was really just a fixation on the idea or a just... reluctance(?) to giving up the fantasy of being together (just in love with the dream rather than the person), that I "gave up" and it was after this freedom from the idealism and the aching that i found someone i really clicked with and cared about deeply.

Yep, I was talking about the same thing with Helm the other day, except I just said that I used to be 'In love with being in love.' Two weeks after I became completely comfortable with being alone, I found out an old friendly acquaintance of mine that I've been getting to be better friends with recently liked me 'in another way' while I was completely oblivious. We've been together for almost three months since.