Is it possible that the girls that you ARE able to "wank" over are easier to "wank" over because you know that, most likely, they are girls that you'll never have a chance to hook up with (i.e. stuck-up girls, cheerleaders, girls in magazines & movies, ect.) and that this situation, representing a real possibility? I'm not trying to be insulting, it's just that you're age and other specifics about your situation are vague to me. By the way, if the friend thing works for now, roll with it as long as she's not taking advantage of you (example: shoulder to cry on about other guys

).